Aubrey O'Day says F*** you, to harsh criticisms about her body after a topless picture of her surfaced the internet.
Aubrey was performing at Las Vegas' "Peepshow" when someone took the picture. It surfaced everywhere and got harshly criticized by many including the infamous Perez Hilton. She posted up a video of how she felt about the leaked picture and exposes her natural bare body to prove that it is beautiful and she loves it. She also talks out about the image of women today.
Aubrey's Peepshow photo
Despite her many crazy acts in the media, this should defnitely be an an example for everyone. Sometimes you're going to have to ignore the haters and be sure about yourself. No one can validate you but yourself, or make you feel completely good about yourself. Instead of hiding into a ball when scrutinized, its best to speak up and be even louder than your enemies! Women especially get their bodies nitpicked everyday, if we speak out every time, then eventually people will shut up.
If you have your own "F*** you, I love My Body" story, Please share it with me by leaving a comment!!
~{"I don't like myself, I'm crazy about myself "- Mae West}~
The following two videos and commentary in blue font is a post featured on one of the blogs that I follow Vivaville ,briefly discussing the Lingerie Football League (LFL). I decided to write my own response to this post.
These girls play rough!
"American Football has the most gender barriers. Women do not have many or any options to play football scholastically. The L.F.L. in its inaugural season will definitely draw male fans & women that are interested in football. Can this league evolve into something better where people will view it just to watch football?"
"Do you think this league is here to stay or a one hit wonder?
I had to write my own post about this for ZestyV because there are so many wrong things about this picture. And I’m not sure if the positive outweighs the negative.
We are more than just our looks
Vivaville does not discuss in detail the positive or many negative aspects of the LFL, which leaves me to do the task.
Supporters of the league have argued that the LFL could eventually lead to more successful women’s professional football leagues. If this is the case, it’s just another example of using women’s bodies and sexuality to achieve our goals. This is an insult to women because it is showing that we have no other way of achieving success and an insult to men because they are suckers for giving in so easily, just for some eye candy.
To reiterate, it would be another ploy used to show that women can only make changes by shedding some layers. And we know that that is not the case with influential women like Rosa Parks, Hillary Clinton and Oprah, all of whom have made the most important changes.
After watching several videos on their website, I could see that this isn’t their goal at all. Mitch Mortaza, founder of the league, wanted to mix the world of modeling and sports mainly for what he says is, “purely entertainment value” and to become mainstream.
The LFL
We have the same assets that men have
Women have brains and muscles just like men. Men have used these very two things to get ahead in sports. How are women supposed to be viewed as equals, if we can’t even reach our goals by using our brains and muscles like men have? By using our bodies and sexuality to get ahead, is showing that women are incapable and that the talents and assets we already have is not enough.
I’m not saying that if we take the same steps that men have taken that we’ll achieve the same results. Women will always have to work twice as hard for twice as long, but we’ve done it before and we can do it again.
Not enough protection
The skimpy outfits on these sexy girls may draw in viewers but it does not necessarily showcase the players’ talents. There will hopefully be many people who watch the girls and realize how good women can play football, but the overwhelming display of booty and breasts with every tackle and play, sends out a different message. The exposure can easily lead to a mass following of perverts than real sports viewers. Not only is the exposure unnecessary, but the women are not as physically protected as they should be. I would think that wearing a bikini while playing football isn’t the smartest thing to do. Luckily the women have the basic protective gear (shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads), but they are still really exposed to getting hurt. Any type of abrasion, mild or severe can be easily avoided if they are covered up more.
Lfl attire
Dangerous eye candy
Being eye candy is not the only type of attention the women will get. Obviously some men watching will hope for a nipple slip or two, or underwear tear. How are you supposed to expect respect, especially as an athlete, if your main viewers are only thinking of sex while watching you and undressing you in their heads?(which looks like it seems to be the point) This is not a Playboy photo shoot, or a club, or a high school cafeteria, this is supposed to be serious sports. And it’s definitely not that! Not to be overly dramatic, but what if some random guy decides to grab them, on the field or at an event, or even stalks one of the girls. We all heard about the Erin Andrews case. This stuff does happen people!
If one of the players were to complain about the negative attention, people would only respond ignorantly that she was “asking for it”. Danger can happen to anyone, but the women are really putting themselves out there, more so than any model would for example, because models work in a confined and safe studio.
The girls obviously working hard!
The effects on women
We have to think about how the LFL affects other women because the players themselves are women. The LFL’s goal is to become a mainstream professional women’s football league, which I and others hope will open up the doors for other leagues. It hopefully will allow females to play as little children, in high school, in college, then professional. Gayla Harrington, who is a co-owner of the LFL and interestingly also a member of the Independent Women's Football League(a real women's league) says, "It could be positive or a negative".It could be that people still don't take it seriously or it could help."
I know that when I was little I wanted to play football, and actually start my own football league! But what kind of message is it showing to girls when watching the LFL? Is it a message that says that any girl who likes football will one day get the opportunity to play? Or that you must look a certain way to play football, do it for the attention of guys, and always use your looks to be successful?
For the minor women’s professional football leagues that have surfaced throughout the years such as the WPFL, IWFL and NWFL, the women do not look anything like these LFL players. They are obviously much more muscular and wear the complete gear and attire. The LFL players on the other hand all look like models, again another example of unrealistic images of women! And if I was a professional female football player or just played football regularly, I would feel completely misrepresented by the LFL.
What a real player looks like!
Passion for the game
After watching some of the other professional women’s football teams, I realized how these women really love the game despite the little opportunities they have to succeed in it. When the Women’s Professional Football League arose in 1999, the women were only paid $100 a game! The pay has not changed much since then. These women are just as passionate as the men are about football. Meanwhile, the women of the LFL are obviously getting the most buzz but just don’t share the same passion, and it’s not fair.
This video below is from the Women’s Football Alliance.
This is a video from the Lingerie Football League.
Do you see the difference? In the second video, although the women of the LFL actually have the skills, it is not mentioned once! And I’m certainly not playing the devil’s advocate because you can easily find many more videos just like this. TV hosts, anchormen, and sports analysts all making perverted jokes about the league and their “tight end”, which the LFL website itself proudly displays in their playlists of videos!
To be fair, I found an article written by one of the players on the team.
Nicki Ghazian , LFL player responds to criticisms about her league
“The most common question I get from men after they realize I play for the LFL is “So do you guys practice in your lingerie?” While I find this amusing, as it makes apparent the laughable yet endearing qualities of the male psyche. I also find myself burdened, on a subjective level, having to break the mental mold the mass public has about the league on an individual basis. Yes – we play tackle football in our Lingerie. Yes I am a model, and some of my teammates are as well. However, the truth is that we are out there putting our bodies on the line, wearing drastically meager padding in comparison to our male counterparts in the NFL or NCAA. We have had broken bones, just in our last game I played the entirety of the game with a broken finger. Last week in the game between Dallas and Denver a player had her tooth knocked out. Many of the teams in the LFL play indoor and playing in lingerie only leaves you open to more turf burn. The truth is, we aren’t scared. We are out here putting our bodies on the line, playing a sport which in my opinion, takes the strength of a modern day Gladiator, and doing so only because we love the game and want nothing more than to prove that beautiful women can be strong and athletic.
There have been many times at practice that little girls have come by our field, and watched in admiration, and at times even started doing push ups next to us. I’m a law student, one of my teammates is a nurse, and many of my other teammates are successful business women. This is why I find it hard to believe that there has been so much feminist criticism drawn to the league, as I see it, what we are doing is a form of turning the tables around on society. It is an ingenious clockwork that founder Mitch Mortaza has come up with, he has allowed us women to manipulate our physical stereotype, using it to our advantage as an attracting tool, but allowing our skills as an athlete to awe and captivate our fans. Whether Mr. Mortaza knows it or not, I believe he is owed a ‘thank you’ by female athletes and feminists everywhere because he is enabling us to prosper on a level that has never been done before.
I have read many critical articles based on the feminist perspective, including renowned feminist Courtney Martin’s article, which inarticulately presses that “This is objectification at its most pernicious — give women an opportunity to participate in a sport that they haven’t had the chance to do for pay and publicly previously, but only let them do it if they are stereotypically pretty and willing to do it in their underwear.” While this statement on a prima facie showing may be true, it is important to delve into the issue further to asses what the league is really doing. What Ms. Martin fails to realize the congruous overlap between oppresive stereotypes and the mechanism to use it as a vehicle of empowerment. The LFL has created a symbiotic binary relationship where oppresive stereotypes have enabled women to attract and show the world their athletic prowess, and prove that two supposed opposites, beauty and strength can co-exist in one woman.”
My response to Nicki Ghazian
I’m honestly happy I ran into this because it should be essential to always know what the other side is thinking. It’s also pleasing to hear how hard they work and to know that most are successful in their private lives. Her interpretation of the LFL can be inspiring to hear, but it still does not override the flaws of the league and the overall business aspect to it. At the end of the day, it is still a business run mainly on the beauty and sexuality of women. It’s not realistic of the real life, football loving professional female players but only a slap on the face to them.
It’s great that the league shows that beauty and strength can coincide, but why does the view on beauty have to be so narrow? These women still don’t look like most of the women I see on a daily basis, that I consider beautiful. They look like everything we are used to seeing in magazines, which we already know is not representative of most women in America. This factor often seems to go unnoticed when talking about beauty.
Ms. Ghazian needs to realize the flaws within her industry and there is nothing that any feminist needs to thank them for. And although she and her teammates have an inspiring and positive outlook on the purpose of the LFL, realistically her founder Mitch Mortaza and supporters do not share the same view but rather a chauvinistic, business oriented one.
the girls during practice
Written below is both a negative and positive comment on Nicki Ghazian’s article:
1)“What you say about empowerment, strength, and wearing less pads than your male counterparts is true. However, would the league be as popular if you were wearing regular uniforms, that other just as talented and beautiful female athletes wear in other sports? Unfortunately I don’t think so. You wear lacey underwear, make out with other team players (I’ve seen pictures), and all your advertising is based on the fact that the players are sex symbols. It’s glorified mud wrestling. The team names themselves convey the message that the game is about sexy women bashing into each other. If you want to be recognized for being beautiful and strong, don’t play for a league that only wants to make money off of your bra size.”
2)“Niki Ghazian, bravo I got goosebumps while i was reading your article.you brought up so many important issues regarding women’s broad abilities which are being deliberately ignord by a male dominated society. Mr Mortaza as you mentioned coupled with the effort of your leaguemates team acknowledging women’s strengths is a way that will help build a strong foundation for a modern society.keep doing what you are doing.”
with the best wishes for LFL
Women have fought way too hard to see changes going backwards instead of forwards. We don’t need to be told to shut up, look pretty, dress skimpy, and go to the kitchen (or field). Whether you’re female or male, the errors here should be clear to see.
PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT EVERYONE ON THIS TOPIC. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ALL THINK ABOUT THIS TOPIC!
~{Acts of inequality can easily be masked as revolutionary and unfortunately often goes blind to the victims of the injustice - Zesty Gabriel}~
This past week, both Rihanna and Chris Brown sat down for an interview to discuss more about the beating, their feelings on the situation and their relationship. For Rihanna, it was her very first time opening up about what happened February 8th, that left her battered and bruised. For Chris it was really just another opportunity to apologize and to let the public know how he is doing throughout the whole situation. Chris already made a few public apologizes. He apologized to Rihanna in a statement earlier this year, he made a public apology video, he went on Larry King and he also wrote a song called"A Changed Man".
Rihanna's Interview with Dianne Sawyer aired Nov. 6
(Part 1)
(Part 2)
The same night on MTV, Chris Brown's interview aired on Friday the 6th but was actually recorded the previous Monday.
I came across a great essay from feminist Gloria Steinem. She is one of the leading feminists of the second wave in the feminist movement. This is a funny satire on how the world would be if men menstruated....
"So what would happen if suddenly,magically, men could menstruate, and women could not?
Clearly, menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event:
Men would brag about how long and how much.
Young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood. Gifts, religious ceremonies, family dinners, and stag parties would mark the day.
To prevent monthly work loss among the powerful, Congress would fund a National Institute of Dysmenorrhea. Doctors would research little about heart attacks, from which men were hormonally protected, but everything about cramps.
Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free. Of course, some men would still pay for the prestige of such commercial brands such as Paul Newman Tampons, Muhammad Ali's Rope-a-Dope Pads, John Wayne's Maxi Pads, and Joe Namath's Jock Shield's- "For Those Light Bachelor Days" .
Statistical surveys would show that men did better in sports and won Olympic medals during their periods.
A MAN ON HIS PERIOD!
Generals, rightwing politicians, and religious fundamentalists would cite menstruation as proof that only men could serve God and country in combat "(You have to give blood to take blood"), occupy high political office ("Can women be properly fierce without a monthly cycle governed by the planet Mars?"), be high priests, ministers, God himself ("He gave this blood for our sins") or rabbis ("Without a monthly purge of impurities, women are unclean").
Male liberals and radicals would insist that women are equal just different; and that any woman could join their ranks if only she were willing to recognize the primacy of menstrual rights ("Everything else is a single issue") or self-inflict a major wound every month ("You must give blood for the revolution".)
Street guys would invent slang ("He's a three-pad man") and "give fives" on the corner with some exchange like, "Man you lookin' good!
"Yeah, man, I'm on the rag!"
(OR YOU CAN BE A FOUR-PAD MAN!)
TV shows would treat the subject openly. (Happy Days; Richie and Potsie try to convince Fonzie that he is still "The Fonz" though he has missed two periods in a row. Hill Street Blues: The whole precinct hits the same cycle.) So would newspapers (SUMMER SHARK SCARE THREATENS MENSTRUATING MEN. JUDGE CITES MONTHLIES IN PARDONING RAPIST.) And so would movies. (Newman and Redford in Blood Brothers!)
Men would convince women that sex was more pleasurable at that time of the month. Lesbians would be said to fear blood and therefore life itself, though all they need was a good menstruating man.
Medical schools would limit women's entry ("they might faint at the sight of blood")
Of course, intellectuals would offer the most moral and logical arguments. Without that biological gift for measuring the cycles of the moon and planets, how could a woman master any discipline that demanded a sense of time, space, mathematics- or the ability to measure anything at all? In philosophy and religion, how could a woman compensate for being so disconnected from the rhythm of the universe? Or for their lack of a symbolic death and resurrection every month?
Menopause would be celebrated as a positive event, the symbol that men had accumulated enough years of cyclical wisdom to need no more.
Liberal males in every field would try to be kind to women. The fact that these "these people" have no gift for measuring life, the liberals would explain, should be punishment enough.
And how would women be trained to react? One can imagine right-wing women agreeing to all these arguments with a staunch and smiling masochism. ("The ERA would force housewives to wound themselves every month": Phyllis Schlafly. "Your husband's" blood is as sacred as that of Jesus-and so sexy too!: Marabel Morgan.) Reformers and Queen Bees would adjust their lives to the cycles of the men around them. Feminists would explain endlessly that men, too, needed to be liberated from the false idea of Martian aggressiveness just as women needed to escape the bonds of "menes-envy."
Radical feminists would add that the oppression of the nonmenstrual was the pattern for all other oppressions. ("Vampires were our first freedom fighters!") Cultural feminists would exalt a bloodless female imagery in art and literature. Socialist feminists would insist that, once capitalism and imperialism were overthrown, women would menstruate, too ("If women aren't yet menstruating in Russia," they would explain, "it's only because true socialism can't exist without capitalist encirclement")
In short ,we would discover, as we should already have guessed that logic is in the eye of the logician. (For instance, here's an idea for theorist and logicians:If women are supposed to be less rational and more emotional at the beginning of our menstrual cycle when the female hormone is at its lowest level, then why isn't it logical to say that, in those few days, women behave the most like the way men behave all month long? I leave further improvisations up to you.)
The truth is that if men could menstruate, the power justifications would go on and on.
On Tyra Banks’ season premiere of her show, she did something no black female celebrity has done: She revealed her natural hair to all of America! Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating a little by saying NO black celebrity, but this is certainly a huge event for TV and American women. This new move covered headlines and is still being discussed today.
This action may have been something small, but the meaning is quite significant. Women around the world count on weave to help their appearance, especially those in the media. We look up to those women and want to look like them, and someone as influential as Tyra Banks showing off her natural look and loving it, will inspire many women.
Tyra Banks on the Larry King Show (She discusses her new look as well as some other body issues)
So I want to ask…have we gone too far. Nowadays it is no longer women getting just a few hair pieces to make their hair look fuller or longer, MANY more women are wearing full head of weave or wigs. Women used to feel ashamed to admit they even wear wigs, but now Wendy Williams talks about it in almost every episode of her show. One guest actress even admitted that her husband has never seen her real hair!
It may have come to the point that women are even ashamed of their hair, especially black women. It is neither cute nor stylish to walk around with an afro like back in the 1970s. If you do, people stare or make comments, or call you “eclectic” , “retro”, or "revolutionary". Revolutionary to walk around with your natural hair texture?
And this weave business does not just apply to adult women, but teenagers and children as well. I myself have been wearing extensions since the age of 5. More and more children, mostly African American are getting weaves put into their hair, and teenagers now basically cover up their whole head with fake hair as well. The dislike for thick and kinky hair has made its way down to the younger generation of females.
Besides all the weave adding and wigs, we spend years of perming , frying and dying, that by the time we are in our twenties, our hair is so damaged we have no choice but to add weave to our hair. Our need to look good in the moment allows us to risk our hair's health and natural beauty.
( I think I see a resemblance)
As a woman that does all the weaving, perming, frying, and dying myself, I know it is really hard to get out of that web once it is spun. Once you begin perming, you feel can never go back to your natural kinkiness and your hair finally becomes manageable, not to mention silky. When you begin hot ironing your hair, you look into the mirror and love the results because now you look like your favorite celebrity. Then once you start weaving and wigging, you think it is the answer to life because now you can have your hair look anyway you want it to look and you barely have to watch out for the rain!
All of these feelings are magnified by of course the media (we always gotta blame them), other women around us , and the men in our lives that love our silky, long, fake(including perming) hair. We already know that we play monkey see, monkey do with the media and that our environment also influences us. It is customary for women to ask other women where they got their hair done. But the men in our lives are also very important. First of all, what woman is going to snag a man with unattractive or out of style hair? And like black women, black men have also created a dislike for the natural 70s afro look. Even women of other races and cultures that tend to have beautiful curly or wavy locks are straightening their hair for that typical all American look.
Women are dying their hair not just to be different but to give themselves a certain “look”. Over the past few decades, more and more women have gone blonde because supposedly “blondes have more fun”. When you open up Playboy Magazine, which is also looked up to as the pinnacle of sexy for mostly Caucasian people, most of the women are blonde, which of course influences women to get that look. Not to mention, Marilyn Monroe, who is often thought of as America's longest running beauty icon. Even many women in Asian countries are dying their hair as well to have a more European or American look.Women are willing to spend thousands of dollars to maintain their hair, but can barely pay for their bills.
Using your hair to show individuality:
But I am neither defending nor reprimanding the different uses of hair beauty. I think having all these options have helped in many ways. For people with damaged hair, weaves and wigs help, and for many others it is a way of showing individuality like the pictures above. But I do feel that hair beauty has gone too far. When little children are learning not to love their natural hair and people are using it to cover up their natural hair’s beauty, it shows that it has become a widespread issue.
My progression of weaving, perming, frying, and dying!
TOP 9 RULES TO WEAVING:
1) Always wrap your head at night with a scarf 2) Beyonce said it herself, "Pat your weaves ladies!"...don't be a scratcher 3) Gease your scalp everyday 4) Let's be honest...don't wash it everyday, you WILL damage it 5) If you are wearing a weave make sure your real hair is not ten times nappier than your weave, it just looks tacky 6) Make sure your wig is not pushed too far back 7) Do not let your boyfriend run his fingers through your hair 8) Do not be afraid to wear your scarf during the day if you are having a bad hair day, it beats having an ugly looking weave, trust me 9) And if you your hair is all natural, rock it loud and rock it proud!
Chris Rock has a very interesting movie coming out on this very topic called Good Hair coming out October 9.He talks about perming and weaves as well, most especially in the black community, but it really speaks to all people both women and men. It is not only very informative and interesting but hilarious as well.
Good Hair Trailer:
~{Don't ever touch a black woman's hair! -quote by :Every black man on earth~}
Which one of my hairstyles is your favorite?
What do you feel about women and weaves in general?
If you thought that Hillary Clinton's success in the 2008 presidential election meant that we were pretty much close to our goal of equality between men and women...you thought wrong. We have a long way to go before we see more women not only in U.S politics, but also being respected on an equal level. The unfairness that I witness and hear keep me obligated to use my blog as a tool of equal rights for women and respect to us, among us, and within ourselves.
I came across a disturbing video depicting the very ugliness in politics against women that we often hear about but are too shocked to even believe true. Please watch this video: the WHOLE video. It is composed by the non-political organization New Agenda, which fights to put more women in power. I promise you, you will certainly be entertained by this video.
Hit her in the mouth with a "leg of lamb"? Little boys uttering, "put her in her place". And G. Gordon Libby, a prominent political figure stating, he hopes that another female politician isn't "menstruating" when working. These are just a few of the things that make me forget that I live in America, the land of the free, the place where justice and liberty preside. Where is all of that? I will not say much more about the video because I believe it speaks for itself. But I do encourage you all to keep your eyes open, your mind open, and try to be that little bit of difference in this country that we so desperately need.
Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something
~{ How Wonderful It Is That Nobody Need Wait A Single Moment Before Starting To Improve The World- Anne Frank}~
Millions of sympathetic viewers watched yesterday as Kanye West rudely took the shine away from Taylor Swift during her acceptance speech and insulted her in front of America. Taylor Swift, a 19 year old country singer won her first VMA Sunday, Sept 13 2009, for best female video of the year.
Her competition: Beyonce, Pink, Lady Gaga,Katy Perry, and Kelly Clarkson. Yea, all the great ones basically.
Summary:
As she was reciting her acceptance speech, the always outspoken Kanye West, snatched the microphone from Swift’s hand to voice who he thought should have won.
Watch below:
At that moment I speak for America, especially the audience in the theatre that night by saying we all felt so embarrassed and so bad for the poor girl.
Later in the evening, Beyonce won the award for best video of the year(but ironically lost for best female video?) and graciously gave up her moment in the spotlight to Taylor Swift so that Taylor could finish her acceptance speech. I think that was the best move Beyonce could have done. Not to mention that it was ridiculously self-less and so thoughtful. Beyonce certainly did not have to do that. The audience was grateful for Beyonce’s classy act as well as America and the crowd would chant Taylor’s name out of respect and love whenever they got the chance.
Throughout the whole evening, Kanye’s name, on the other hand, was booed, every time the audience got a chance to. And frankly, the bastard deserved it. After the show, Kanye posted up the most half assed apology I’ve ever heard in my life.
This is what he wrote:
Kanye’s starts off his apology well said and it seems that he has realized what he’s done but then he restates in his apology the very same insult he uttered on stage! “Beyonce’s video was the best of the decade”. It is DEFINITELY not a sincere apology if you say sorry to someone but yet continue to repeat the same insults to them AGAIN in their face. Even thought the issue here is not how he feels but just the fact that he went up on stage, it still is not going to make Taylor feel any better by reading what he already declared out on stage!
Then Kanye continues on to apologize to fans and MTV, etc., but then again writed something else completely irrelevant by saying, "Welcome to the real world!". Welcome to the real world?? This certainly has nothing to do with the "real world", he was rude, obnocious, irrelevant and a just a bully. He's implying that this is just what happens in reality, but in reality, whether you are an adult, tennager, or child, what he did was unjustifiable.
Not to mention, right after the previous statement he says “…I’m a real fan of pop culture!”. Kanye west is definitely in no position to even think that his definition of “pop culture” is everyone else’s. I’m sure America and that audience certainly does not care about Kanye West’s opinions. Taylor Swift IS pop culture for many people and has been affecting a lot of lives since she’s been on the map. It is unbelievable that Kanye is apologizing to her about one incident while giving her a completely new insult at the same time.
He continues on to give justifications for his actions by stating that he once gave away his award to OutKast when he felt they deserved more than he did. But that does not matter. Unlike this situation, Outkast didn’t DEMAND that the award be theirs, I’m sure he wouldn’t have handed it over if that was the case. No justification for anything he did in the past, or any way he feels, takes away what he did. He just does not seem to get that jumping up on stage while ANYONE is speaking is completely disrespectful. He ended up looking like a complete fool and because of that he certainly did not make his point across to us.
Why?:
Now you already know what this website is about. And believe me folks, I WILL not exclude all the social factors that made Kanye feel so bold enough to do what he did. And you may not want to mention or acknowledge them, but I will.
This incident was definitely a race, age, and sex issue. Kanye himself is not any of these but it definitely influenced him in his decision making.
I do not know if you aware of Kanye’s stunts, but this is definitely not his first outburst.
Let’s look into the crazy world of Kanye.....
Kanye vs. The paparazzi
Kanye vs. MTV
Kanye vs. President Bush
Now after watching these I hope you have gotten a better understanding of Kanye’s mentality and how he handles displeasing situations
Now going back to our issues of racism, ageism, and sexism….
Do you think Kanye would have jumped on that stage if it was an African-American artist, like Rihanna, Ashanti, Usher, etc.? Probably not because then he’d be going against the morals and values he “claims” to have about black unity and empowerment. He would just be Bush if he did that right? (if you watched the videos you should know what I’m referring to).
What if Taylor wasn’t 19, but rather 30 years old? It probably would have put some more hesitation in him, because he would have more respect for a woman his age. Also, a woman his age who is much smarter and wiser would have definitely hit him up with a wise remark after his tactless stunt.
Lastly, what if Taylor was a man? Young or old, there’s a big chance there would have been some butt kicking on that stage.
With all three of these combined what if Taylor wasn’t a country a singer but a rapper. Kanye CERTAINLY would not have jumped on that stage, because I’m sure he would have been worried if he was going to get shot later that evening.
But Taylor isn’t any of these. She’s just a young, beautiful, white girl, definitely vulnerable and easy to hurt. One of the biggest and talented artists insulted her and left her for damaged goods on that stage.
Earlier today Kanye posted up a new apology, that still seemed drained of sincerity and probably forced out of him by a publicist. He says : “I feel like Ben Stiller in Meet the Parents when he messed up everything and Robert DeNiro asked him to leave. That was Taylor's moment and I had no right in any way to take it from her. I am truly sorry."
He also spoke on the Jay Leno Show the night afterwards. He finally seemed remorseful for his actions. I hope his words are sincere and completely genuine.
Here's the interview:
Taylor, being the mature young woman that he is, has no response to Kanye but rather praised Beyonce for what she did. Taylor says, “I don't know him, and I've never met him, so I don't want to start anything because I had a great night tonight."
The fact is that Kanye was a coward.
He thought he was bold because he was able to jump on that stage and express his opinions but he wasn’t. He took advantage of someone’s weakness,and did the first immature thing that he could think of, instead of being respectful and holding's onto his opinions for a better time and situation. It's often the people that act out the most that are most insecure.
My only wish is that Pink didn’t win that award because she would have followed him offstage after his remark and whooped his behind (being the bad girl that she is).
We’ve all sat down watching the Cosby show wondering how Healthcliffe Huxtable got with Clair or how Doug got with Carrie (King of Queens). These are just two examples of the many sitcoms that feature an average, not too attractive male, whom happens to have the hottest MILF as his wife.
Why is it that so many of these family sitcoms feature such unequal couples? Well frankly because it’s more important to have attractive women on TV than to have attractive men.
For decades we've seen shows upon shows and movies upon movies that have fit this mold, to the point where we don't even bat an eye because we are so used to it.
Leah Remini-King of Queens
It seems that overtime not only have people gotten used to, but would rather see a man with a trophy wife than an average looking woman with a trophy husband. This mentality is not something instilled in just men but shared by women as well.
Women will often harshly criticize other women for getting with a hotter mate than if a guy is with a hotter girl. I know we've all (especially women) heard statements like “How did she get with him?” Unfortunately women are known to be more critical at times to other women than men are to women: Whether it’s criticizing another female’s clothes, face, and body or insulting each other with words like bitch or slut.
But this common trend of hotter wives we see on TV doesn’t seem to do much with the female audience; it is mainly for the man. This trend could serve to possibly be an underlying message to all average looking men that they are capable of getting with a hot girl.
Constance Marie Lopez-The George Lopez Show Kellita Smith- The Bernie Mac Show
This trend also goes along with the issue of women having to always look beautiful and be the idea of perfection. The media has always put more pressure on women than on men to look good. These shows make it seem realistic for women who are married and have 1+ kids to manage to stay in complete shape, be a size 0, have hair and makeup always done, while still doing the cooking, cleaning and being on time.
To all women: THIS IS NOT REALISTIC!
To the women who actual fit this mold, more power to you. Please tell us your secret! And although this is not impossible for women, it’s still hard to keep your family and work in order and still look like a supermodel throughout it all. We don’t have that luxury. Not to mention, after all those kids, who expects a woman to stay a size 6 or below? This is just not realistic.
Barbara Billingsley- Leave it to Beaver
(Not all of us can be like Mrs. Clever ,killer housewife and sexy while doing it)
Some of these shows have even realized the inconsistencies relating to this matter. In King of Queens, Doug is always stating how Carrie is too good for him. In Still Standing, Bill is also always commenting on his wife's beauty.
Jami Gertz- Still Standing
Courtney Thorne-Smith - According to Jim
This is why I love shows like Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City where all the men are especially very handsome. Four averagely pretty, middle aged women hooking up with gorgeous men: we should be seeing more of this on television. Women too should feel that their looks shouldn’t get in the way of their love life and finding an attractive partner.The media constantly rides on the stereotype that as women get older they look older and as men get older they look more defined. But women, if confident can possess the same type of advantages that these men on TV have, at any age.
I’m sure we’ll have many more sitcoms to come with that quintessential “hot wife”, because the idea of a trophy wife is still a huge part of both women and men’s mentality. But I hope that as time progresses, we can have less pressure on women to be the supermodel trophy wife, and more women in realistic settings. I also hope to see more women, especially older women with attractive men as their co-stars.
{~The very least you can do in life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope~}
Some more Hot wives!
Patricia Heaton- Everbody Loves Ray
Suzanne Pleshette- The Bob Newhart Show
Katey Sagal- Married With Children
Megan Price- Grounded for Life
Meredith Baxter-Family Ties
Lois Griffin-Family Guy
Marge Simpson-The Simpsons
She's not the hottest, but that blue hair adds a bad girl streak
ZestyV is a safe haven where people can feel comfortable to express themselves. My topics focus on the influences of the media, sex, and gender roles. ZestyV will serve to:
·Bring awareness to men & women on various issues in the media and our environment
·Inform everyone about the progressive history of women,
·Build motivational strength in the youth today, especially women.
As females, we tend to live up to negative media images & unrealistic standards of our society. I want women to feel comfortable with their sexuality and embrace all of the entitled pleasures of life. With these objectives I hope females will leave with an improved sense of pride, and demand the respect they deserve.
